Will you be my bridesmaid number 4?
I got an email from my sister in law who was asked to be a bridesmaid in the upcoming wedding. It was a warning. "She called to ask me for your phone number..."
What do you do if someone wants you to be in their wedding and you don't want to be?
First of all I think they should know your phone number if they are asking you to be in their wedding. But, is it okay to say "no" and give some lame excuse like money or travel when it would probably end up being very obvious that you just don't want to. Maybe she'll ask me to read from the bible at the service. I wouldn't mind that. Just because I'm her future sister in law do I have to be her bridesmaid? What a bunch of B.S., ladies and gentleman, weddings shouldn't be obligations.
She is the same girl who told me that the first thing she noticed about my brother was his corporate credit card. She actually said this.
Most of the time I can be polite to her because it isn't that big of a sacrifice. But jeez, be a bridesmaid?!
Can't I just say, "Oh I'm so flattered, but no thank you...I wish you the best of luck." but all of the bones in my body with any bit of etiquette in them is telling me that this could be very rude and might even push my brother and future wife away from me.
Grin and bear it? But let's not forget that this will cost me several hundred dollars I might have to ask my family to help me with not to mention extensive travel back and forth to Philadelphia between now and June for dress fittings and showers and all of that all to save the risk of being rude to someone I don't like very much.
Sure, I love her because my brother loves her, in the sort of way that you have to because if she got hurt my brother would be very sad. I know, I know! My brother! He'll be so mad that I hurt his fiancee during this really really difficult wedding process ( my mother isn't going to go to the reception with my father, so there was this huge fight. She'll go to the wedding of course. But here is the other part of it, if I am IN the wedding, no one will be sitting with my mom.) If I say no, she might have more guys than girls and that would really bother her.
I guess none of this drama matters very much to you at all.
I could say "I'm so so so so sorry, but I really can't, I started this new job..."
(but I'm honestly not that sorry I just wish I didn't have to deal with this)
I could say "nah... thanks though"
(that would obviously be really rude.)
I could say "I'd love to"
(and be doomed to a horrible and expensive dress and make-up covering up the tattoo she thinks is hideous, not to mention all of the things you are supposed to do for a bride. like stupid parties and party favors.)
Maybe...I could just not call her back.
But If I'm not in Dan's wedding it will be difficult to be in Michael's if he asked me to. I think this is one of those things I have to do.... I don't hate her, I guess.
What do I do? I'm really confused. (this isn't rhetorical)
I got an email from my sister in law who was asked to be a bridesmaid in the upcoming wedding. It was a warning. "She called to ask me for your phone number..."
What do you do if someone wants you to be in their wedding and you don't want to be?
First of all I think they should know your phone number if they are asking you to be in their wedding. But, is it okay to say "no" and give some lame excuse like money or travel when it would probably end up being very obvious that you just don't want to. Maybe she'll ask me to read from the bible at the service. I wouldn't mind that. Just because I'm her future sister in law do I have to be her bridesmaid? What a bunch of B.S., ladies and gentleman, weddings shouldn't be obligations.
She is the same girl who told me that the first thing she noticed about my brother was his corporate credit card. She actually said this.
Most of the time I can be polite to her because it isn't that big of a sacrifice. But jeez, be a bridesmaid?!
Can't I just say, "Oh I'm so flattered, but no thank you...I wish you the best of luck." but all of the bones in my body with any bit of etiquette in them is telling me that this could be very rude and might even push my brother and future wife away from me.
Grin and bear it? But let's not forget that this will cost me several hundred dollars I might have to ask my family to help me with not to mention extensive travel back and forth to Philadelphia between now and June for dress fittings and showers and all of that all to save the risk of being rude to someone I don't like very much.
Sure, I love her because my brother loves her, in the sort of way that you have to because if she got hurt my brother would be very sad. I know, I know! My brother! He'll be so mad that I hurt his fiancee during this really really difficult wedding process ( my mother isn't going to go to the reception with my father, so there was this huge fight. She'll go to the wedding of course. But here is the other part of it, if I am IN the wedding, no one will be sitting with my mom.) If I say no, she might have more guys than girls and that would really bother her.
I guess none of this drama matters very much to you at all.
I could say "I'm so so so so sorry, but I really can't, I started this new job..."
(but I'm honestly not that sorry I just wish I didn't have to deal with this)
I could say "nah... thanks though"
(that would obviously be really rude.)
I could say "I'd love to"
(and be doomed to a horrible and expensive dress and make-up covering up the tattoo she thinks is hideous, not to mention all of the things you are supposed to do for a bride. like stupid parties and party favors.)
Maybe...I could just not call her back.
But If I'm not in Dan's wedding it will be difficult to be in Michael's if he asked me to. I think this is one of those things I have to do.... I don't hate her, I guess.
What do I do? I'm really confused. (this isn't rhetorical)
posted by j-e-s-s-i-c-a at 9:17 AM
3 Comments:
just say no! i hate stupid weddings, no offense to those soon to be married
I avoid the hassle of being in other peoples' weddings by both having no friends and alienating my family. I may have to get drunk alone all the time, but I don't get hassled with the bad stuff that comes with people wanting you to participate in their lives.
do not go! if you politely decline, i don't think you're sister-in-law will hold a grudge.
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